Continuation of hate......

Yesterday I wrote about the hate being spread through internet by our youth who are one day supposed to inherit our earth and help get rid of terrorism, save the environment, keep pushing forward with technology, and to put it simply, make the earth a safe and peaceful planet. There are plenty of great and brilliant young minds out there, but the amount of bitterness, and angry minds out there is alarming, something needs to be done!
Why do children turn into angry adults? The bottom line is somewhere along the way they were failed, miserably, by an adult, possibly by more than one adult. This is a quote from my book, Can There Be More?, I feel strongly about the opinion that I expressed in my book. "When children feel loved, they feel safe, and safety leads to security. Safety and security are very important in a child's development. They feel they can trust their parents, or parent, and their life, which, in turn, gives them the self-confidence to fly. My daughter has self-confidence and great self-esteem. Those two qualities for a girl or woman to have are two tools that a female needs to dominate her game of life in a man's world." The same goes for boys. I happened to be talking about my daughter in that part of the book.
If a child is abused or neglected their self-confidence and self-esteem are non existent, there self-worth is in the gutter, and they feel very vulnerable. This leads to them believing they are a victim, when the poor me and I will show you attitude surfaces, you then have children that turn to manipulation, hate, bullying, and using fear tactics to get there way. If they are not stopped by the time they are young adults, they will turn to crime. The only way they feel they have any control, or anyone will listen to them is by using force, and their words against others. Everyone needs to feel in control of their life, or else you feel like you are spinning in orbit, you have no direction, no where to plant your feet, and no way to ground yourself. That is a horrible feeling, might as well bring others down with you!
So what do we do? Do we all just hope for the best and leave these people feeling lost and in turn they take it out on society, us? When they become adults they even go further; a lot of them prey on children. This really gives them power and makes them feel in control. I was sickened by a story here in Northern California. Three adults held a fifteen year old boy captive for a year. He was chained to a fire place, sexually abused, physically abused, and starved. When he escaped he was covered in his own feces and urine. How do we ignore this? It goes on all over the world. You know all the stories.
I don't have all the answers. If you have any suggestions, please let me know. In the mean time I will look up mentoring programs, and recruit my own children to help, and I will keep typing to those on the internet that are calling out for help, someone to care about them, and show them they matter to one person. Maybe you all could the same.
I leave for my grandmother's funeral in Chicago tomorrow. When I get home, I have a new mission. Hug your kids today, tell them they are loved, and have a fabulous day!

Heather Hogan, Can There Be More?